Dear Agony Aunt

Dear Agony Aunt, I am in love with my girlfriend and really want to get married but her father doesn’t like me. He would rather his daughter married this other guy and so he has forbidden us from seeing each other. Should I fight for her hand or should I just accept her father’s decision? Lysander x


  1. talk to her father and prove that your the best man for hermia. vicky

  2. There are plenty fish in the sea. You should get another girl and obey her father. (by Anon.)

  3. Lysander, you should fight for her!! Me and my friend saw you in a midsummer nights dream at the globe with my school we thought you and all the other actors were amazing and we all thought you were really fit!!!!! Very jealous of hermia!!!!! :D keep doing your thing!!! Loved the play!!

  4. fight for your love!
    8E Stratford Sarah Bonnell

  5. You should most definately fight for her hand! If you show her father how much you love her and she loves you he might change his mind. If he sees her happy he may allow you two to be.

    by charmaine

  6. Lysander, love is never easy, but if you know that it is worth it, then why not take the risk? Fight for her, if you really love her, and don't give up! (by Anon.)

  7. Lysander, your'e right. True love never did run smooth, but it will all work out in the end. If you really love her, then fight for her. Don't give up! (by Anon.)

  8. Lysander listen, if you really love her then you know what to do keep fighting for her. Maybe her father is just looking for someone that can stick up for his love for her daughter, you need to show him that is you. If he thinks that someone else is better than you for his daughter then you need to change his mind and make sure her knows that he should choose you and never ever stop believing because you can do it. (by Anon.)

  9. Lysander,if you really love her then you know what to do! FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT for her. maybe her father is just looking for someone that will fight for his daughter. Someone who he thinks really loves his daughter, so show him thats you! Do whatever you can to get her and remember Lysander never stop believing (By Alice)

  10. You should stay with her and go and have food at her home with her dad and get to know her and the next day let them go to your home and let him meet your mum and dad. (by Anon.)

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The course of true love never did run smooth.


Relationship Status:

Loves Hermia, then Helena, then Hermia


I am Lysander, an Athenian man who is in love with Hermia. However, I have a rival in this love, Demetrius, who is the favoured match of Hermia’s father, Egeus. Egeus complains about me and the bad influence I have on his daughter but, determined to keep my love, I ask Hermia to elope into the forest with me. I am a passionate man and I am therefore unreserved in my affections towards Hermia but, when I awake from my sleep, I fall passionately in love with another woman, Helena. I now loathe the sight of Hermia and fight with my rival Demetrius over the love of Helena rather than Hermia. Fortunately, at the end of the play, I fall back in love with my true love Hermia.



Being rebellious & forbidden love



Helena & Hermia

Also Called:

  • ‘Scornful Lysander’ (Egeus. 1.1.95)
  • ‘good Lysander’ (Hermia. 1.1.168)
  • ‘gentle friend’ (Hermia. 2.2.55)

O wall, O sweet, O lovely wall

  1. (2.2.52-54) Lysander riddles very prettily. / Now much beshrew my manners and my pride, / If Hermia meant to say Lysander lied!

  2. (2.2.128-29) Good troth, you do me wrong, good sooth, you do, / In such disdainful manner me to woo.

  3. (3.2.267-68) I would I had your bond, for I perceive / A weak bond holds you; I’ll not trust your word.

  4. (3.2.330-35) You are too officious / In her behalf that scorns your services. / Let her alone; speak not of Helena; / Take her part; for if thou dost intend / Never so little show of love to her, / Thou shalt aby it.


  1. Clip 1

    Peter Bray discusses his initial impressions of Lysander. > Play
  2. Clip 2

    In conversation with the Lovers: Peter (Lysander) and Carlyss (Helena). > Play
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