Dear Agony Aunt

Dear Agony Aunt, I am in love with my girlfriend and really want to get married but her father doesn’t like me. He would rather his daughter married this other guy and so he has forbidden us from seeing each other. Should I fight for her hand or should I just accept her father’s decision? Lysander x


  1. Be a man and confront her father. If you love her truely then you should try the upmost hardest to get her hand. prove to her father that you are the best for her while you re-assure her that your love for her is stronger than her father's power and you will always be by her side through every up and down. (By Sophie)

  2. Dont let her father win!! Hopefully he will give up and then you will be happy! (by Anon.)

  3. Nothing should stop you from being with her, if you love her!! Dont let her father get to you!! (by Anon.)

  4. If you really love this girl and she really loves you too, then don't let anyone and anything get in your way. Don't let anyone tell you who you can and cannot love, follow your heart and everything will fall into place in the end!...If you are truly in love I say go for it! Love is a rare thing; don't let it pass you by. Good luck and don't worry! (by Fionnuala)

  5. You should fight for her hand! (by Anon.)

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The course of true love never did run smooth.


Relationship Status:

Loves Hermia, then Helena, then Hermia


I am Lysander, an Athenian man who is in love with Hermia. However, I have a rival in this love, Demetrius, who is the favoured match of Hermia’s father, Egeus. Egeus complains about me and the bad influence I have on his daughter but, determined to keep my love, I ask Hermia to elope into the forest with me. I am a passionate man and I am therefore unreserved in my affections towards Hermia but, when I awake from my sleep, I fall passionately in love with another woman, Helena. I now loathe the sight of Hermia and fight with my rival Demetrius over the love of Helena rather than Hermia. Fortunately, at the end of the play, I fall back in love with my true love Hermia.



Being rebellious & forbidden love



Helena & Hermia

Also Called:

  • ‘Scornful Lysander’ (Egeus. 1.1.95)
  • ‘good Lysander’ (Hermia. 1.1.168)
  • ‘gentle friend’ (Hermia. 2.2.55)

O wall, O sweet, O lovely wall

  1. (2.2.52-54) Lysander riddles very prettily. / Now much beshrew my manners and my pride, / If Hermia meant to say Lysander lied!

  2. (2.2.128-29) Good troth, you do me wrong, good sooth, you do, / In such disdainful manner me to woo.

  3. (3.2.267-68) I would I had your bond, for I perceive / A weak bond holds you; I’ll not trust your word.

  4. (3.2.330-35) You are too officious / In her behalf that scorns your services. / Let her alone; speak not of Helena; / Take her part; for if thou dost intend / Never so little show of love to her, / Thou shalt aby it.


  1. Clip 1

    Peter Bray discusses his initial impressions of Lysander. > Play
  2. Clip 2

    In conversation with the Lovers: Peter (Lysander) and Carlyss (Helena). > Play
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