Dear Agony Aunt

Dear Agony Aunt, I am in love with my girlfriend and really want to get married but her father doesn’t like me. He would rather his daughter married this other guy and so he has forbidden us from seeing each other. Should I fight for her hand or should I just accept her father’s decision? Lysander x


  1. Hello Lysander, I think that you should fight for your love. If you really do love her then you will fight for it. x (by Anon.)

  2. You should run away with her and get eloped in the forest! (By Anon.)

  3. fight for her hand its obvious that her father is jealous of you. he is worried that you will take his daughter away and the fact that he thinks you are a peasant and Demetrius belongs with Hermia but you cannot give up you love her, she loves you. WORK TOGETHER TO BE HAPPILY AMAZED BY EACH OTHERS LOOKS!!!!! (oh wait you already are) From Jade!

  4. In my opinion Lysander should marry Hermia without Hermia's father knowing and run away together without anyone knowing. (by Anon.)

  5. fight for her because you got the power for her. i think you should love her no matter what happens. she loves you too not him. one think belive in yourself because she likes you (by faiza)


  7. you have the power so you can fight for her. (by Anon.)

  8. DO you love her? Stand up to those who stand in your way. You must be confident for people to believe in you. Most importantly, never give up or you shall fail, no one dislikes failures more than youself. Many poeple may agree with the term 'Good things come to those who wait' but in this case the father is a 'leopard never changes its spots', therefore you may be waiting for some time. If you do not go with your heart then you shall die a lonely man. I cannot stress enough that this stage within your life could change you, for ever. In conclusion, fight for what you believe in, set your mind to it and shall have the power to overlook time-wasters (by sky)

  9. Fight For Her Love He's Gonna Fight Fight Fight Fight Fight For His Love ;) (by Anon.)

  10. If she doesn't love you we do! Service Children's Education attending the performance on the 2nd March. We will bring you some advice don't worry!

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The course of true love never did run smooth.


Relationship Status:

Loves Hermia, then Helena, then Hermia


I am Lysander, an Athenian man who is in love with Hermia. However, I have a rival in this love, Demetrius, who is the favoured match of Hermia’s father, Egeus. Egeus complains about me and the bad influence I have on his daughter but, determined to keep my love, I ask Hermia to elope into the forest with me. I am a passionate man and I am therefore unreserved in my affections towards Hermia but, when I awake from my sleep, I fall passionately in love with another woman, Helena. I now loathe the sight of Hermia and fight with my rival Demetrius over the love of Helena rather than Hermia. Fortunately, at the end of the play, I fall back in love with my true love Hermia.



Being rebellious & forbidden love



Helena & Hermia

Also Called:

  • ‘Scornful Lysander’ (Egeus. 1.1.95)
  • ‘good Lysander’ (Hermia. 1.1.168)
  • ‘gentle friend’ (Hermia. 2.2.55)

O wall, O sweet, O lovely wall

  1. (2.2.52-54) Lysander riddles very prettily. / Now much beshrew my manners and my pride, / If Hermia meant to say Lysander lied!

  2. (2.2.128-29) Good troth, you do me wrong, good sooth, you do, / In such disdainful manner me to woo.

  3. (3.2.267-68) I would I had your bond, for I perceive / A weak bond holds you; I’ll not trust your word.

  4. (3.2.330-35) You are too officious / In her behalf that scorns your services. / Let her alone; speak not of Helena; / Take her part; for if thou dost intend / Never so little show of love to her, / Thou shalt aby it.


  1. Clip 1

    Peter Bray discusses his initial impressions of Lysander. > Play
  2. Clip 2

    In conversation with the Lovers: Peter (Lysander) and Carlyss (Helena). > Play
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