Dear Agony Aunt

Dear Agony Aunt, This girl I used to go out with keeps following me around and telling me how much she loves me. I have told her that I don’t love her and that I am actually in love with her best friend but she won’t give up. She says she is ‘sick’ when she is away from me and that she wants to be my ‘spaniel’. How can I make it clear to her that I’m just not interested? Demetrius x


  1. If you love Hermia a lot then tell her invite her to talk to you and then explain you'r feelings to and then if she still does not like you then beg on you'r nees and tell her what she means to you and then if she sill does not like you then give up because the heart wants what the heart wants [By Anon]

  2. how about you run away from her or frame her for a crime so she cannot be your lover (by Anon.)

  3. be polite but keep your distance -- she will give up! :)(by Anon.)

  4. You should go out with her and give her another chance. (by Ammarah)

  5. If she likes you, you will have a common talking ground that attracts her to you. Do not push her away, as she has been there for you and is there for you to talk to and be friends. Say Hello and be friendly next time you see her. Oh and Finally, Demetrius... Don't Go Chasing Pavements. You are better off with what you have naturally in the hour of need. (by Anon.)

  6. Perhaps give her another chance and go out on a date. Maybe you will see something you like in her again. (by Shakespeare's Globe)

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Tempt not too much the hatred of my spirit; / For I am sick when I do look on thee.


Relationship Status:

Loves Hermia, then Helena


I am Demetrius, an Athenian man who is in love with Hermia. However, I have a rival in this love, Lysander, and although Hermia's father wants me to marry her, she hates me and loves him. When Helena tells me that Hermia and Lysander have eloped into the forest, I quickly follow. I am also pursued by Helena who loves me but who I detest. After waking from a sleep I suffer a change of heart and love Helena instead of Hermia, fighting with Lysander now over the love of her. Fortunately, when morning comes, Lysander falls back in love with Hermia and so I am left to love Helena alone.



Fighting with Lysander




Also Called:

  • ‘a worthy gentleman’ (Theseus. 1.1.52)
  • ‘a disdainful youth’ (Oberon. 2.1.261)

O wall, O sweet, O lovely wall

  1. (1.1.110) This spotted and inconstant man.

  2. (2.1.195-98) You draw me, you hard-hearted adamant - / But yet you draw not iron, for my heart / Is true as steel. Leave you your power to draw, / And I shall have no power to follow you.

  3. (2.1.203-7) I am your spaniel; and, Demetrius, / The more you beat me, I will fawn on you. / Use me but as your spaniel, spurn me, strike me, / Neglect me, lose me; only give me leave, / Unworthy as I am, to follow you.

  4. (3.2.413-16) He goes before me, and still dares me on; / When I come where he calls, then he is gone. / The villain is much lighter-heeled than I: / I followed fast; but faster he did fly.


  1. Clip 1

    Richard James-Neale discusses his initial impressions of Demetrius. > Play
  2. Clip 2

    Richard talks about playing Demetrius in rehearsals. > Play